Dating a Guy in High School While You’re in College

There are celebrities out there like Demi Moore, Cameron Diaz Ivana Trump and Lind Hogan who are all self-proclaimed “cougars,” all having dated men who are more than 10 years younger than them. There’s always that one golden dating rule: “Never date anyone under half your age plus seven.”

Many girls have to handle a lot of harassment from their “friends” when dating a younger guy. I, personally, would never go for a younger guy, because I feel like they are much more immature than guys my own age. This is even truer when the girl is in college and the guy is still in high school. I have a friend, Katie, who is 21 and dating a guy in high school and she used to get verbally abused by her roommate and her room mate’s boyfriend whenever her boyfriend, Johnny, would come over to visit. She’s even going to prom with him! I could never do this, but there are some girls who just seem to go for younger guys.

Click here to see a picture slide show of Katie and Johnny.

Dr. Faryr Barkeley, a Human Behavior Expert, says that women in their 20’s is not a “cougar,” but they have a more specific name, “a kitten.” Kittens are college girls who date guys who are still in high school. By definition, my friend Katie is a kitten.

There is much more than an age difference when dating a guy in high school while you are in college. Regina Phlem, a senior at George Washington University, who has had a short , 3 month relationship with a guy in high school tells me, “The freedom gained while in college grows a person and matures them. High school seniors just aren’t the same as people in college. Plus, they have little to relate to you once you’re in college.”

I surveyed 40 college women and asked them if they would ever consider dating someone in high school, this is what I found:
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I then surveyed those same 40 women and I asked them if they found younger guys to be more immature. Here are my findings:
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I asked those 40 women if they have ever dated someone who was still in high school. Here are my results:
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I then asked the women who did date someone in high school if they noticed significant differences in levels of maturity or if they had trouble relating to the guy. Here’s what I found:
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So do guys ever catch up to girls? Dr. LouAnn Brizendine, a neuropsychiatrist insists that, yes, they do eventually. Guys normally catch up to girls in their 20s, a time when they are in college.

Don’t fret. If you’re into a younger guy and want to start dating him, there’s hope! My friend Katie does it well. Watch Katie speak about her personal experiences with dating a younger guy. Despite the teasing she may get from other people, she insists that it’s doable and that not all guys in high school are immature.


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How to Make a Quick Sunday Brunch with your Boyfriend

My room mate has her boyfriend over for the weekend and they tried out something I think every couple should do: make brunch. Here’s a quick how to: make a quick Sunday brunch with your boyfriend. The food of choice was Crepes!

Crepes are quick and easy and hard to screw up… although my room mate’s boyfriend did add too much butter to the pan they were cooking in.

Things to remember when cooking with your guy:
1. Make sure the work is evenly divided, don’t do all the cooking yourself and don’t let your guy do all the cooking. Some one is bound to get frustrated this way. Remember, cooking together is a way to bond and it takes two to bond.

2. Remain calm. If something doesn’t go right while cooking… or if your guy burns what you’re cooking. Don’t get frustrated. It’s not the end of the world and you don’t want to make your guy feel like crap.

3. Have fun! That’s what it really boils down to. You want to make memories that you two can look back on years from now. You want to make one of those “remember when…” moments. So if you want to get a little messy in the process, do it. (Just remember to clean up after) You want something fun that you can remember.

How to Make Crepes:  (Recipe taken from AllRecipes)

In a large mixing bowl, whisk together the flour and the eggs. Gradually add in the milk and water, stirring to combine. Add the salt and butter; beat until smooth.

Heat a lightly oiled griddle or frying pan over medium high heat. Pour or scoop the batter onto the griddle, using approximately 1/4 cup for each crepe. Tilt the pan with a circular motion so that the batter coats the surface evenly.

Cook the crepe for about 2 minutes, until the bottom is light brown. Loosen with a spatula, turn and cook the other side. Serve hot.

Enjoy a quick 1 minute slide show of my room mate and her boyfriend making this recipe. It was delicious!